Takes From the Team: Leave or Be Left

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This question is one to think about, for sure. Every week, I’ll be bringing you an insider take on one of the Marriage Pact questionnaire’s hottest questions, courtesy of two of our team members. Last week, we took on “I like drama” — read that here. This week, let’s take a look at one of the most divisive queries on our questionnaire: Would you rather leave someone at the altar or be left at the altar? Spicy. Got a specific question you want us to debate? Slide into our DMs here.

Leaving: “To state the obvious, I hope that no one is left at the altar at my wedding. But if I had to choose, I would much prefer to leave someone than be left. Being left at the altar would be absolutely crushing — you’re madly in love with this person, and you’ve likely planned out the rest of your life with them. To have them not show up on the day that you are supposed to commit to each other is something that I would wish on no one, and definitely hope not to experience myself. With that in mind, I would prefer to leave someone at the altar. I think that, in order for me to want to leave someone at the altar, something would have to be seriously wrong with the relationship. If I am ever truly that unhappy with a partner, I would hope that I would make the right decision to not marry them. Of course in an ideal world those issues would be resolved before we planned an actual wedding — but I guess if they weren’t I might become a runaway bride. Hopefully it doesn’t come to that.”

Being Left: “I’d like to think of myself as a “good” person, whatever that means. Leaving someone at the altar is probably one of the worst things you can do to someone (Mr. Big from Sex and the City, anyone? Carrie deserved better). I don’t think I could live with myself after. If I was ever in a situation like that, I honestly think I’d grit my teeth and get through the ceremony. If I wanted to call it off, may as well wait until the next day, right? And yeah, being left at the altar would totally suck. But at least you get the sympathy of all your family and friends, rather than their mild hatred. Plus, I’m guessing you’d be the one to keep the wedding gifts? Either way in this scenario, you’re left single and kind of depressed. May as well be the martyr instead of the malefactor!”

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