Last Updated October 2023
Marriage Pact, n. \’mer-ij ‘pakt\
An informal agreement between two people—if both parties remain unmarried and without prospects after a certain period of time—to simply marry each other.
Based on your values, the Marriage Pact college matching event algorithmically “interviews” all other participants at your school on your behalf to find the best person with whom you could make a marriage pact. Wavelength is cut from the same cloth—by understanding what matters to you, Wavelength allows you to match with people who are most compatible with you from a values perspective. The following pages contain our data principles and privacy notice, which describes the information we process to make the Marriage Pact and Wavelength work.
Here, you can find specifics regarding the information we collect (what we collect, how we collect it, and how we use it), how we protect that information, whether or not we share that information, and how you can manage information about you. We also outline how participation is voluntary for Wavelength—and what you can count on when you participate, as a result.
When we use the terms “Marriage Pact”, “we”, “us”, or “our” in this Privacy Notice, we are referring to The Marriage Pact. When we use the term “Wavelength”, we are referring to the mobile application that posts or links to this Privacy Notice.
Privacy Notice Summary
What kinds of information do we collect?
Our questions ask about some sensitive things. Here’s why: the idea behind Wavelength is to provide you with a deeper understanding of yourself and what you value. When you look at what matters in any really long-term relationships (say, 50 years-long), it isn’t icebreaker questions like what music you listen to or what your favorite ice cream flavor is. It’s really about your core values—what you care about deep down—so Wavelength asks about the things that really matter.
But it isn’t all heavy stuff. In Wavelength, we ask three kinds of questions:
Contact Information questions
In your answers, there are three main types of information:
Contact information helps us to verify that you’re actually you. It includes your phone number during onboarding.
Demographic information is simply information like your age (this allows us to verify that you’re over 13) as well as your gender and sexuality (important for dating).
Values information helps us understand your approach to life. This will include matters of principle and matters of preference.
Outside of the Wavelength app itself, we may ask you to answer other kinds of questions:
In your answers, we’ll find the following kinds of information:
Feedback information helps us understand why and how you use Wavelength. This might include thoughts and comments on the matching experience, or it could include your feedback on other experiences you have as part of Wavelength.
Other information may be volunteered in response to other questions.
We use accounts in Wavelength, which are created for you in onboarding. We use artificial internal identifiers we assign to your account to allow our systems to connect account information stored in different databases and tables. When your account is made, we keep note of basic information to help us better understand how you use Wavelength, such as when you created the account, log in activity, account errors, and account deletion history.
How is this information collected?
Contact information and demographic information is received in onboarding. Values information is received when you answer questions from your questions tab next to the home screen. Your answers are only recorded when you tap your numbered response.
Some information is collected automatically that you wouldn’t provide yourself. For example, we collect log data, like how long you’re using Wavelength or whether you’re encountering any errors. We collect analytics data, like which links led you to Wavelength. Both of these are used to better understand how you’re using the app, to make improvements in the long run.
Right now, Wavelength is entirely free. One day, you may optionally be able to pay for additional features within the app. If that’s ever the case, we’d collect your payment information, which includes things like contact information, billing address, and card information. Our payment processors may share some or allof this information with us—for example, to confirm that your payment was accepted.
You’ll be able to identify Wavelength because it is clearly marked and associated with Marriage Pact. If anything seems unrelated to Marriage Pact, it’s likely not from us. Be careful with fake match emails, and especially be wary of fake requests for your information. If you aren’t sure if something is legit, please reach out to us via firstname.lastname@example.org.
How is this information used?
We touched on how the information is used when we outlined it above, but we’ll expand on how we use your information here:
We use contact information to verify that you’re actually you (via your phone number).
We use demographic information like age, gender, and sexuality to give you people you’d prefer to match with and (hopefully) date. Like we mentioned above, we also use age to verify you’re over 13.
We use values information to help us assess your compatibility with your matches. Sometimes, similarity in values is important. Sometimes, dissimilarity is important. Most often, there are much more complex interactions at play.
We use feedback information to improve Wavelength. By understanding how and why you participate, we can make Wavelength better for you and for others.
We use log and analytics data in order to better understand how you’re using Wavelength and what errors you might encounter so we can improve the experience as a whole. By aggregating what we learn from analytics, we can better understand what improvements we can make.
We don’t currently use payment information, but we may in the future. If we do, we’d use this information to allow you to purchase features that add value to your Wavelength experiences.
At this point in time, we can’t know what questions we’ll ask in the future, so we can’t know how we might use other information. That said, take a look at the last paragraph in
what kinds of information do you collect? (above) and the section titled we do not share this information (below) for details and for our beliefs, and message us if you have any questions (our contact info is in Closing Words, below).
How is this information protected?
Because there are sensitive questions involved here, privacy is super important—so we’ve worked hard to design it into the system anywhere and everywhere we can. Compatibility is discovered purely via algorithm, so nobody looks at individual answers to questions to do it. The algorithm also uses unique IDs for each person, so it’s agnostic as to anyone’s name or contact info.
The security of the Marriage Pact as a whole depends on the security of each of our sub-systems. We use Mailchimp to send feedback emails; they outline their security here. We use OneSignal to support notifications; they outline their security here. We’ve set up the algorithm to run on Amazon Web Services, which many other organizations use to house their data; they outline data privacy and security here. We use Mixpanel to measure basic analytics, they outline their security here. Just in case, we minimize the information we send whenever possible—that means sending as little information as possible.
The data itself is protected via both access controls and encryption. Data in transit is encrypted using TLS protocols. We also do the un-sexy parts of security that are still important, like avoiding public wifi, using long and unique passphrases, and using multi-factor authentication everywhere we can.
Wavelength isn’t meant for children under 13, which is why we ask for your birthday. If you’re under 13, please hold off from using Wavelength—we’ll delete all information associated with accounts of children.
We do not share this information.
We’re not about advertising, so your information stays with us. When you’re matched, your matches see your first name and profile, which contains information you control like photos, answers to prompts, and demographics you choose to share.Beyond that, we’ll never share information about you in a way that could let you be individually identified by it. The “why” here matters, too—take a look at the section called Your Information is not for sale in the Data Privacy Principles below, for our views on this topic.
Because your values information and demographic information may be unique to you, we recognize that removing contact information from your responses alone does not qualify as “anonymizing” it. This is why we strive to follow a standard of protecting personal information broadly (rather than the more narrowly scoped “personally identifying information”).
Note: There are a couple obvious cases in which parts of your information may be seen by others:
Your names and high-level compatibility information are shared when you’ve matched with someone, as well as the information on your profile you create.
An employee at Marriage Pact may have access to your data if they’re building or debugging the services that use it.
We may be forced to share information with legal advisors and law enforcement if required by the law—for example, to help prevent fraud or criminal activity, comply with any lawful requests or legal processes, or protect our users’ safety.
We lean on service providers for critical infrastructure like email, and hosting our servers. That means that, as part of running Wavelength, those infrastructure providers will necessarily handle your data on our behalf. Take a look at “How is this information protected?” to learn more.
We can’t predict the future (though you know we try). At some point, we may take part in something like a merger, acquisition, joint venture, financing, or sale of the company including its assets. To continue running our products (like Wavelength), we can’t delete all your answers, so personal information would probably need be included in such a corporate business transaction.
How can I manage information about me?
If at any time you’d like to update your information, you can do so in settings. Your question responses are recorded when you submit them. If at any time you’d like to delete your account, you can do so in settings, as well.
Participation is Voluntary.
Participating in Wavelengthis entirely voluntary, and you may withdraw from the experience at any point in time. If you do decide you want a clean break, just delete your account in two taps from the settings menu in the app.
Your Information is Not for Sale.
The information you share with us is not for sale. We’re not about advertising, and we’re especially not about propaganda, so we don’t do advanced population segmenting and we don’t sell access to you (or to your attention) to advertisers (state-sponsored or otherwise).
Further, we’re about determining marital backup plans—not social credit scores—so your Marriage Pact information is self-contained. We don’t correlate your responses with information about you from third parties, and we don’t give third parties access to Marriage Pact information to correlate with external data about you.
Who We Are
The Marriage Pact was first created in Autumn of 2017 by Liam McGregor and Sophia Sterling-Angus as part of a class project for ECON136: Market Design, at Stanford University. That fall, 53% of everyone at Stanford participated. The next year, 63%. The next, 73%. As of February 2021, a Marriage Pact has now happened at 30 schools, with more than 90,000 people participating and 45,000 matches.
Making the Marriage Pact, we are a small (but growing) team composed almost entirely of full-time students. Wavelength is one of the first new experiences made by the team. We hope it will be a fun way to create the kind of connection we’re all missing right now.
We’ve outlined the data policies above because we think it’s the right thing to do. It is our best-faith effort to do the right thing! If you have questions about any of this, you can DM us on Instagram @marriagepact or email us at email@example.com.